By Denny Wayman
Rik Cryderman grew up in a Free Methodist parsonage. I first met him in seminary and enjoyed his intellect and depth of love. His journey of faith and life did not take the path he expected when as a seminarian he first recognized that he was gay. Now in his 60s his daughter, best selling author Kelle Hampton, blogged an interview with her father and asked him questions that help all of us. You can read it on her blog here if you want to explore both her journey and his.
I connected with Rik and asked if I could take some of his thoughts he expressed to his daughter and post them here. He graciously consented. I do so in hopes that as we discuss sexuality and same-sex attraction we do so not as an issue, but as persons, equally beloved of God. As I said here: “As Christians who have experienced God’s compassionate love and who are committed to extend that love to our “neighbor”, homosexuality is not an “issue” we discuss dispassionately, but rather we compassionately enter into the experience of those whose sexual orientation is not heterosexual.”
I’ve only taken the part of the conversation between Kelle and Rik that I found most interesting. Kelle’s words are in bold and Rik’s are in italics:
What is your first memory of any attraction to men and when and how did you finally identify as being gay?